Mark and I just celebrated our 9th wedding anniversary. 2018 is the big TEN year mark. Obviously we don't have everything figured out but are so blessed to both come from parent's that are together and who love each other so much 30+ years of marriage. Mark and I were both raised in Christian homes which is a HUGE part of our life today. One of the MAIN reasons we work it together is because we have the same values and beliefs. When it comes to the "big" stuff we feel the same way. I am not saying we always agree but things such as church, discipline, what we expose our children to, etc. are things that we mostly agree on. This is something that REALLY helps us work it together!
Again, I am totally not claiming to have marriage figured out I am simply sharing what works for us...but another way we work it is to create "us" time. This is super important! Not only for personal reasons but for kids to see their parent's loving each other. For kids to see their dad putting their mom first and their mom serving (in a biblical meaning of the word) their dad and both working together as a family. As kids come and schedules get busy sometimes we don't get a full date night but we make time to sit on the couch (the same couch;) when the kids go to bed and talk, watch our shows, and catch up from the days events.
Having fun in life helps too! LOL! This guy is just fun to be around...Mark is just that kind of guy. Other's enjoy being around him as well. He is kind, genuine, and totally a glass FULL kind of guy...that helps us work it day in and day out.
Mark and I have different roles as far as housework goes. It took us (well me) a while to accept these roles but totally know to ask for help when we feel overwhelmed. Mark can cook, clean, and do laundry with the best of them and is always willing...I just have ask. We work it together as a team in this area and it just makes things go smoother.
Try new things...do we know what makes each other comfortable!?!? Totally!!! Should we only do what makes US feel comfortable through life? NOPE!!!! Growing up Mark and I vacationed different, experienced different things, and even had different schooling. As we begin to travel and do new things together I love that he and I are both open to trying new things. He had never snow skied before he met me but now he can hang with the big guys. ;P He is wiling to try new things as well as pushes me to try new things as well! This is a way we keep workin' it together! We make memories while trying NEW places and experiences together!
Friend time...Mark and I haven't ever been a couple to keep tabs, tally, or even "allow" each other to do certain things. Thankfully trust hasn't been an issue and we desire each other to have fun. I want him to have time with friends...everyone needs that. He encourages me to do the same. Having friends, like really good friends, other than your spouse is another way we work it.
Again, this post has been fun to think about Mark and I's relationship, by no means do we have it figured out. We have been through things most couples will never go through and I know without a doubt that the bond we share through the loss of a child is something that only made us stronger. We put Christ first and he will pave the way for us....
Thanks for reading how we are WORKIN' IT!!!!