Friday, October 11, 2013

Taking deep breaths...

It's October...yup, in my teacher mind it's the end of 1st quarter. Kids are in a routine, friends have been made, Christmas break is getting closer, and well...we still have a child who cries everyday we drop him off at school. ;( It's terrible! The first day was like a dream. He went in all smiles and enjoyed every minute of it. Now it's October and we are still peeling him from my body every Tues. and Thurs. morning.

I mentioned to Mark Tuesday morning that the situation has shown me a few positives...1 being I am so happy I choose to send him to only 2 days a week instead of keeping him home another year. I know it would have been more harm to him than good. He is child who THRIVES off routine. The teacher says he has a great time but is quite. He still has his sad moments but they are getting less. After hearing that the mother in me wants to keep him home another year, at home, where he enjoys it. But the teacher in me knows better. It would be a selfish move on my part.

I think sometimes as mothers we forget. We know what's best for our children but it's just hard to act upon it. It's hard to let go...it's hard to let them do something we feel so uncomfortable doing. This little 2 days a week preschool has reminded me of such things. There are "bigger" situations that have and will arise, I want to be prepared.

I have mentioned Lots of Scotts before on this blog but I love her so much. The Lord really uses her blog to speak to me...a lot! It's always perfect timing. My dad always said "your mom and I raised you in a Godly home, taught you right from wrong, and tried to be the best examples we could be so once you were own your own you had the right tools to make the correct decision. At some point we HAVE TO STOP making those decisions for you..." He is so right...what's crazy is now I am on the other side. I am the mom. I realize it's not just one day we are making the choices and the next day the child is making all of them...it's a gradually process and IT DOESN'T (and shouldn't ) always be when we as PARENT'S feel ready.

So after dropping Wyatt off at school on Tuesday I read this post. She is talking about how her daughter loves running and how she has been running with her. They signed up for a race together and during the race her daughter took the lead and left her behind...

A post from Lot's of Scotts..."Always one to look for a lesson, I thought a lot about preparation, parenthood and pace as we ran. My little energizer bunny started out so strong. I wanted to teach her how to keep a steady pace. For the first mile we ran together. She wanted to sprint, and while she seemed to need my companionship at first, once she got comfortable we both realized I was holding her back.

During the second mile she found friends to run with and they eased away from the parents with whom they'd started the race. Occasionally their erratic sprint/recover strategy would create a window for me to check in. By the third mile the young crew had found their competitive groove and moved far enough ahead that I could merely watch (as I huffed and puffed) marveling at their youth and energy.

I thought a lot about my role as her mother/running partner. Should I be trying to stay with her? Was it wise to hold her back with me? Ultimately, I decided my role was to keep a steady pace and be ready with an encouraging word for her when our paths overlapped.

The implications on motherhood were clear--especially as she approaches the tween years. I've already run my race of childhood. It is inappropriate for me to relive each age and stage trying to keep pace/redo. Trying to ride all the emotional waves up and down--sprinting then gasping--would exhaust us both and render me essentially useless.

I am running a race of my own, but it's a different category with different expectations. My role in my children's race is pace setter/keeper, encourager, coach, supporter--but it is important that I stay conditioned for that role. My pace should be set by keeping in step with the Spirit through prayer, accountability, Bible Study and working out my faith.

"Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus." from Hebrews 12: 1-2"


So good...you can read the entire post here. I pray if you need to let go and let your child make a decision or complete an action let them. I pray the Lord will give me the guidance to not pass my own worry and fears onto my children.

1 comment:

  1. I love this! Thanks for sharing. I just started reading your blog and love hearing what you have to say! I also have a daughter who was born 3/13/12 (and a 4 year old son) - fun coincidence :)

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