Friday, October 4, 2013

Mama Answers pt. 2


Answers part #2:
I remember reading one of your posts where you said you and Mark use to want multiple kids but now after having Wyatt and Sloane you are content with being done, my question is, how do you know that? I'm fighting an inner battle with having a 3rd or not and I just don't know when I'll *know* either way. 
This is such a great question. I think experiences in life create, like it or not,  you become. Growing up I always wanted a big family. Mark and I both came from families of 5 so it only seemed normal to do that as well.  The first pregnancy wasn't part of "our plan"  (We plan God laughs, right?!?!) so we had to reevaluate a bit. I loved being pregant, it was nice to me. ;) Ha!  Then after carrying twins full term and losing Ryder our world was turned upside down. We knew we wanted another child pretty quickly after having Wyatt but didn't know details. Wyatt turned 1 in May and we knew we were expecting by July. The entire pregnancy was EXTREMELY hard emotionally, WAY more than we expected.  We were closely monitored and had an amazing Dr. who did his very best to keep us calm but it was so hard. Without going into too much detail and speaking out of turn for Mark, I think it was actually harder on him than it was me. I am pretty sure the moment the Dr. pulled Sloane out, with Mark watching, during the c-section and the cord was wrapped around her neck Mark decided he was finished having children. It is VERY rare for a child to die due to umbilical cord strangulation but to know the second time the cord was in the same place was MORE THAN ENOUGH for us to be finished.  Even though I don't have the children here on Earth to show it my body does a fine job of showing how I carried twins to full term. It sucks. 
My prayer was always for there to be a clear picture of our family. For me to KNOW when we KNOW. Mark and I are both on the same pg. When I see a pregnant woman I think she is cute but have NO desire to EVER carry another child and I enjoy holding newborns but no longer have "that feeling" when I see one. 
All this said...this is how we feel right now. The is the way the Lord has spoken to us now. In years to come his plans may be different but for now this is it. ;) 
I hope this help...my suggestion would be to pray for "clear signs with open and closed doors." The Lord will show you. 

In the past you said you were a teacher. What made you decide to leave the profession?
I love teaching. It truly is my passion. I never wavered in school, I always knew being a teacher is what I wanted to do. When moving to STL it was tough finding a job. I finally was offered a teaching position at a Charter school teaching 1st grade. I thought it was my dream job and couldn't wait to be finally living my dream. Ya, not so much. Let's just say moving from from a small town to the "big city" and teaching in the inner city wasn't as dreamy as I thought. I didn't give up and remained teaching the entire year. (Yes, unlike MANY other colleges who quit.)
The next school year I got a job teaching 5th grade at a small private Christian school. In Nov. they stopped paying their teacher blaming the parents for not paying tuition  It was a bit messy and by Feb. (after working 4 months without pay and a husband in school) I hate to put in my resignation so I could find another job. Oh ya, in the meantime I found out I was pregnant with twins and the pastor had never signed us up for the health insurance that was part of the contract. I worked at a preschool/daycare 50 mins. from home until I was 33.5 weeks pregnant and the Dr. told me I needed to stop working.
Mark and I began praying for an opportunity to come along for me. The plan was for me to stay at home with our children but we also didn't expect children to be here until he was out of school. We continue to pray and the Lord laid an amazing job right in our laps. I am able to work from home but have the luxury of a SAHM as well. When giving this chance I took it and left teaching...


Do you ever think you will have more kids? 
*see above
Do you ever think you will go back to teaching? 
Honestly, I have no clue! I don't know if I will ever make it back into the classroom as the main teacher but I will for sure be extremely involved at our children's school. If at that time an employment opportunity arises we shall see...
And lastly, how did you guys pick your kids names?
We both always liked the name Wyatt and it's kind of a tradition in his family to use the son's middle name as the father's first. (does that make sense?) Wyatt Mark...
I always enjoy knowing the meaning of names and Wyatt means:
The meaning of the name Wyatt is 'Brave/strong/hardy war'
It was perfect! 
Then there was the girl....hmm....we tossed around a lot of names. We knew we wanted something different and not common but nothing crazy. I heard someone call for their child in a store by the name of "Sloane." I told Mark I loved it...it took him some time to think about it, which is normal and he liked it as well. We looked up the meaning and...what do you know...
the meaning of the name Sloane is: warrior, fighter
and that was it. PERFECT ;) 

This was so fun to answer questions from you'll. Please feel free to ask questions at anytime. You can e-mail me at mremschmitz@gmail.com



1 comment:

  1. Thank you for answering my question! I'm sure I will figure it out someday!

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